Kowhai; a New Zealand native (the word means yellow in Maori). Kowhai is also the symbol on the Women's Refuge logo. Photo: Su Leslie, 2014

Kowhai; a New Zealand native (the word means yellow in Maori). Kowhai is also the symbol on the Women’s Refuge NZ logo. Photo: Su Leslie, 2014

Leanne at Nihongojapango challenged me to participate in 3 days, 3 quotes and I’ve decided to share lyrics from songs by Billy Bragg — one of my favourite song-writer/performers.

Valentine’s Day Is Over, from the album Workers’ Playtime, is a song about moving on from an abusive relationship.

Thank you for the things you bought me
Thank you for the card
Thank you for the things you taught me when you hit me hard
That love between two people must be based on understanding
Until that's true you'll find your things all stacked out on the landing
Surprise, surprise
Valentine's Day is over

I’ve chosen this song to quote from because it’s difficult to live in New Zealand and not be reminded how big an issue domestic abuse really is and how far we as a culture have to go to address the underlying issues. Just this week a local broadcaster with a conviction for assaulting his former partner was called out on not only making flippant comments about violence in a FaceBook post, but then downplaying his own abusive behaviour in a second post (1)

As many of you know, for several years I’ve been involved with NZ Sculpture OnShore, a charity sculpture exhibition that raises funds for Women’s Refuge NZ. This organisation helps over 20,000 New Zealand women and children a year who are experiencing domestic violence. Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time for a woman and her children as violent partners lash out, causing greater harm or death (2). Organisations like Women’s Refuge are essential; providing help to leave and safe places for women to go.


Part of this challenge is to invite three other bloggers to contribute. I’m always a bit nervous about this. On one hand, it’s an acknowledgement that I am interested in what you have to say, and on the other, I know that we’re all pretty busy and don’t necessarily welcome an extra “opportunity” to blog. And then there is my concern that the people I don’t ask might feel slighted … you get the picture?

Oh, I know, I’m over-thinking it, right.

Well here goes. Joanne from My Life Lived Full, Maureen from Kiwissoar and Gallivanta from Silkannthreades;Β  I’d enjoy knowing what quotes inspire or motivate you, make you laugh, or just made you stop and think. So, if you’d like to participate post 3 Quotes ( one a day) on 3 consecutive days and nominate 3 bloggers in each post to participate.



(1) What Tony Veitch should have said. Newsworthy, 3news.co.nz, 20 October 2015

(2) The Most Dangerous Time, Guardian Australia.

3 days, 3 quotes: day 2

22 thoughts on “3 days, 3 quotes: day 2

  1. So true Sue! Domestic abuse, physical and mental is a huge issue. Sometimes I think we are unaware how ingrained attitudes towards these kinds of issues are. Words are a powerful thing and there are times we really need to think about how we express ourselves. I know since I started teaching I actually


  2. whoops posted too early! I know since I started teaching I think more about how I phrase some things. I was teaching at a boys school and became very aware of the ingrained sexism in a lot of comments made to the boys and the way the boys would talk to each other. made me think about what messages we were sending


  3. Violence of any sort is terrible, but to me there’s something about violence toward an intimate partner that makes it even more heinous.

    I’m taking the challenge you issued, starting tomorrow (maybe consecutively, maybe not.) πŸ™‚ Thanks for thinking of me.


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    • Hi Janet. I totally agree; domestic abuse is a violation of the most intimate trust we can place in a person. I woke this morning to read in the news of yet another woman in NZ murdered by a partner. We have the worst record of domestic abuse in the developed world. I simply despair! Looking forward to seeing your quotes. Cheers, Su


  4. What an amazing post, an incredible charity and the 3 quotes for 3 days pass along thing is so cool too. If in need for the future you can call upon me for 3 quotes/3 days. Just so that you have at least one covered! LOL

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  5. Thank you Su! I’m just picking up this post and noticed you tagged me to join this challenge!! hmmm – I shall need some thinking time to hopefully come up with something interesting.
    I’m feeling a wee bit intimidated after reading your own thoughtful versions πŸ™‚

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