Two boys met beside a lake. It took no more than a shared love of throwing stones and jumping of a wharf for them to become friends. Image: Su Leslie 2008
I think Peter is right. A lovely image of your little redhead (if that is who is in the photo) such breathtaking scenery. I’m really bad at making friends as I am not a joiner and I have moved so many times during my lifetime that I have always felt very transient. And once the kids have left home and you stop working it is hard to meet new people. Or maybe that’s just me.
Not just you. Iβm very much the same. And I worked from home for years, so the whole workmates thing isnβt there. I am also very introverted and find people quite exhausting after a while. When the boy was little I did try very hard to go to play groups and do the whole mumβs-together socialising thing, and actually I did make a couple of actual friends that way. But itβs definitely got more difficult in recent years.
And it is my little red in the shot. These days I struggle to get any photos of him, and Grandma keeps asking for one!!!
Itβs so true that we have less inhibitions when we are younger. As adults too many of us worry about what others think about us. My restaurant is next to a school and we all love to hear the excited yells at playtime. Why canβt adults feel so free?
Watching my so grow up, I could see how over time kids stop being encouraging of each other and start to say negative things. And I think they are modelling how adults speak β teachers can be incredibly destructive of kidsβ confidence π
A mixture of both probably. Itβs amazing (and terrible) how, when you really listen to everyday speech, so much of it is negative. If I had a Forfar for every time Iβve begun a sentence with βthe problem is …β β I could afford the therapy I so obviously need π¬
A work colleague has just returned from a holiday in Indonesia and he said that despite the poverty and natural disasters encountered they are the happiest people he has met. We have a lot to learn π€
That’s a really good point. Some playmates definitely become friends though; my son has friends he is still very close to that’s he’s been hanging out with since they were at primary school.
Kids have no preconceived notions of what a person should be like. That’s my guess, Su.
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I think you are right π
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Oh, to be so in the moment!
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Yeah. Made me want to throw the to-do list away and spend the day at the beach. Then the rain arrived π€¨
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Ah, back to wellies and a good book
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Just not at the same time.
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Children have a magical way of connecting. We could learn something from them.
Leslie
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I totally agree Leslie π
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I think Peter is right. A lovely image of your little redhead (if that is who is in the photo) such breathtaking scenery. I’m really bad at making friends as I am not a joiner and I have moved so many times during my lifetime that I have always felt very transient. And once the kids have left home and you stop working it is hard to meet new people. Or maybe that’s just me.
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Not just you. Iβm very much the same. And I worked from home for years, so the whole workmates thing isnβt there. I am also very introverted and find people quite exhausting after a while. When the boy was little I did try very hard to go to play groups and do the whole mumβs-together socialising thing, and actually I did make a couple of actual friends that way. But itβs definitely got more difficult in recent years.
And it is my little red in the shot. These days I struggle to get any photos of him, and Grandma keeps asking for one!!!
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Definitely not limited to you two! If the world had more Innocence and Trust in Good mightn’t it become a kinder, gentler place? β€οΈ π β€οΈ
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Must be why we gel so well on the blogs!
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Itβs so true that we have less inhibitions when we are younger. As adults too many of us worry about what others think about us. My restaurant is next to a school and we all love to hear the excited yells at playtime. Why canβt adults feel so free?
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Watching my so grow up, I could see how over time kids stop being encouraging of each other and start to say negative things. And I think they are modelling how adults speak β teachers can be incredibly destructive of kidsβ confidence π
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You are so right. I donβt know if they realise or perhaps donβt care how damaging they can be. π’
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A mixture of both probably. Itβs amazing (and terrible) how, when you really listen to everyday speech, so much of it is negative. If I had a Forfar for every time Iβve begun a sentence with βthe problem is …β β I could afford the therapy I so obviously need π¬
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A work colleague has just returned from a holiday in Indonesia and he said that despite the poverty and natural disasters encountered they are the happiest people he has met. We have a lot to learn π€
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I totally agree with that.
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Perhaps they live more in the moment than adults do. And they have less ‘other junk/stuff’ taking up their energy and time.
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Both very true.
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I think kids make playmates quickly, but real friends? I am not so sure.
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That’s a really good point. Some playmates definitely become friends though; my son has friends he is still very close to that’s he’s been hanging out with since they were at primary school.
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So do my daughters. My younger daughter’s best friend has been her best friend since before they could talk!
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